New dad refuses to spend his first Father's Day babysitting for his girlfriend's brother, girlfriend claims he is being selfish: ‘Her brother doesn’t like me and the feeling is mutual’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jun 14, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

Father's Day and Mother's Day are two holidays that, for some reason, tend to bring families apart a lot more than bring them together. Perhaps it is because of the high expectations some parents and kids put on these days, or perhaps it is because some families struggle with celebrating these days properly. Either way, when the time comes for you to celebrate these days with your kids, maybe you should tread carefully.

The best approach for these two days, if you ask us, is not to let it be a surprise. Surprise is just another word for disappointment, because you can never live up to someone's expectation if you don't cue them in when you're making the plans. If you're planning to take your mom or your dad to a fun family activity, or if you simply plan to make them breakfast in bed and a sweet card, just tell them about it. They will know what to expect, the stress level will subside, and everyone will be happy.

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  • That being said, even if you carefully plan these days, it can still end up being a disappointment to the family, especially to the celebrated parent.

    For example, the only thing the dad in the story below wanted to do for Father's Day was to celebrate it with his kid and girlfriend, but even that was taken away from him. 

    Who can blame him for being disappointed?

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    AITA: My girlfriend is mad that I don’t want to babysit her nephew on Father’s Day.

    On Sunday it's Father's Day. My first Father's Day. I want to spend it alongside my girlfriend and our 7 month old. However her brother
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    asked us to babysit his kid on that day because him and his girlfriend want to go out. When my girlfriend asked me I politely said no as it's my
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    first Father's Day and I would like to spend it as a little family. She got salty and a little mad and is now being passive aggressive. Her
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    brother doesn't like me and the feeling is mutual and w❤ don't speak. He only talks to my girlfriend when he needs a favour. His kid is great and
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    we've babysat him multiple times. On my girlfriend's first Mother's Day it was just us 3. I don't know why she can't do the same for me.
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    Ok_Clerk_6960 NTA. Your BIL is though as is you gf! Feel free to tell her I said so. Never once on Mother's Day have I wanted to dump my kids to have the day to myself. Why would I? Even when they were little my husband made it a
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    family day. Father's Day is exactly the same. It's a family day and we celebrate my husband. He deserves it! If your BIL wants a babysitter so he can go have fun his gf can do it. Your gf is WRONG.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP I agree. Mother's Day and Father's Day were always spent as a family growing up. I'd like to continue that tradition in my own house with my own family.
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    Due-Compote-4723 NTA. Let her baby sit the kid and you spend time with your child. She could be a people pleaser trying to be in her uncaring brother's good books for nothing.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP She is definitely a people pleaser. It's really annoying.
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    TheMaltesefalco Father's Day and Mother's Day should be whatever the actual parent wants to do that day. If Mom or Dad want a day to themselves? Thats what they get. If they want to do something with the kids or as a family, thats what they get. It isnt complicated.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP I wish people were smart and realised this.
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    linehm6500 NTA, what is her problem?? I hope you can show her these comments to tell her how unreasonable shes being, but ofc there are always 2 sides of the story.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP Do you think showing her would help? She'd probably get mad haha.
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    Accurate-Neck6933 There's more than one babysitter in the world. They just don't want to have to pay!
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP Agreed.
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    efauncodes I assume you have talked to her and told her it would be a big deal to you to spend it as your core family? Because on Mother's Day it might have just happened organically and your gf might not have noticed, nor know that this is important to you.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP She knows exactly how I feel.
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    carnalasadasalad Yeah you are kind a selfosh a e here. I mean Father's Day is just another day, and it could be super fun to include the little kid. And it might be a way your gf is trying to keep family relations going hoping they will improve. Either way it's zero big deal just be cool already.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP It might be another day to you. But to me and millions of others it isn't.
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    hellogoawaynow NTA. How would she feel if you asked her to babysit some other kid on Mother's Day? No way! Maybe y'all can watch the other kid on Saturday or
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    something. But Father's Day is for you, and the first one is kind of a big deal! Also pretty nuts that her brother doesn't want to spend time with his own kid on Father's Day.
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    Neat-Addendum-1476 OP I said to her let's do our Father's Day plans a different day then and she said no. So I just said no back to babysitting.
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